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Posted: Oct 08, 2008 in Things to do, Nightlife
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This topic came up in conversation the other day about online dating sites and their ability to put two people together compatibly. Yes, we have all heard the success stories, but I guess I am cynical enough to wonder if it's all too good to be true.
Dr. Phil was a huge fan of Match.com and that old guy who seems to know what he's talking about thinks eharmony.com is a very scientific approach to romantic chemistry. (No, I don't know if there is a bunsen burner involved so I can't account for the scientic theory involved.) I can't help wondering if any dating site is worth it when their is way too much room for human error.
I met a guy several months ago who had a profile on Match.com. Though married he wanted to "meet people" (code for: well, you know) and he also mentioned that his buddy sent "winks" to every girl no matter if they were compatible or not. Another friend of mine (female) showed me her list of local "matches" and I have to say I became very concerned when I saw what was out there.
In the guys' defense...for heaven's sake, if you want to attract a girl do not, I repeat, do not find the only photo you have of yourself and crop out your old girlfriend...it is so obvious when you do that. Compared to the guys' profile pics women's look way better and of course there seem to be many more of them to go around.
So my question to you all is, who will admit to using an online dating service, did it work for you and what was your experience? Anyone?
My brother (after his divorce) used a few of these sites. I think that if you had been out of the game for awhile, and just needed a little help meeting people then these sites can be great.
The best thing about it is that you can ask somebody out online, and if they say no it wouldn't really hurt as bad. If you got rejected online you can at least save face by acting nonchalant about it.
I'm one of the success stories. I met my husband on eHarmony and after being together for over 2 years, we were recently married. I'd done Match.com and while I went out with a lot of people on there, I didn't really click with any of them for the long haul. When I met "hubby" on eHarmony, I knew right away that there were certain personality traits and values that we shared (well, pending honesty on the questionnaire). We clicked on the first date and were pretty much a couple from the get go.
I have several friends who met their husbands/fiance's on Match.com too. Once you're out of college and out of the bar scene, sometimes this is the best way to meet people you wouldn't normally come across in your daily life.