Would you date someone who's not on facebook?

Nina Mehta

October 09, 2008 by Nina Mehta | Staff

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First, some safe internet dating tips:

Now, anyway... about dating those who are not on facebook. I would, I have and I do--date those that are offline.

  • I met a guy at a party once who I quite fancied. As we were exchanging contact info, I casually mentioned that I'd find him on facebook. He, in fact, is a myspacer and I am not. He asked me to join just to friend him. Sorry, I have a strict no myspace policy. We emailed, called, texted.

  • I dated a guy for a while who was completely offline. The only way I could ever contact him was by phone call and text messaging. Didn't have his email, address, facebook, myspace, linked in, whatever.

  • I had a 'thing' with a guy who was not on facebook because he thought it was a waste of time. Texts were still expensive for him, then, so it was a lot of phone calls. He was great about reading my emails and would bring up talking points in real life conversation, but you couldn't pay the kid to e-mail a reply. Go figure though, he's on twitter.

Upon the beginnings of one of these relationships, my best friend asked me, "Did you find yourself reciting your favorite movies, TV shows, books and favorite quotes?" Well, no, but go figure, getting to know someone by actually talking to them is quite endearing.

My point really is that I really enjoy social networks and social networkING. Yes, I would, have and do date people who are not on facebook. I believe in having real conversations and getting to know people for real. But, as social networking is something I am interested in and excited to talk about, should it be something my partner also has an interest in?

Hard to say, I guess I'm just looking for a "keeper" who will hang out with me. But I don't mind if he writes on my wall, ow ow.

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Drinky_McGee
Drinky_McGee, October 9
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I'd much rather hang out with someone in person than trade ones and zeros online. Someone who has an aversion to all this technological rigamarole doesn't bother me. Those are probably some of the most interesting folks out there. And there is a tendency for those of us who are all over the internets to spill our guts about every aspect of our lives, hence removing any mystery. That can be both good and bad, I guess.

rictor
rictor, October 10
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I have a Facebook account, but I'm not a fan of using it for personal contacts, mostly because it's used by so many people in the business world. At my last two jobs, people I've worked with have added me to their Facebook, which is fine. However, it does mean I try to put as little personal info on Facebook as possible and keep that on MySpace and MyYearbook, where no businessman would tread.

Also, Myspace is designed around meeting NEW friends, which is great if you're single. Facebook is designed around connecting with people you already know.

Neal Taflinger
Neal Taflinger, October 10
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As much as I hate social networking sites, this one girl I hadn't seen for a decade contacted me over Myspace a couple years back. I married her in July so I can't complain.

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