You’ve made it clear that you aren’t interested in him, so I see absolutely nothing wrong with taking the drinks.

If it makes you feel better, continue to make it clear that you’re not interested in any sort of relationship when you take the drinks. As long as you accept the booze, it sounds like he’ll probably keep buying and keep flirting. So if that begins to bother you, stop accepting the drinks.

Fair enough, Mr. Neff. I’ll take it. And if said booze buyer has an issue, I’ll just cite this conversation and direct all further inquiries to you!

Fair enough Ms. Slutmuffin.

Free booze is free booze.

I once walked into a bar in Chicago and an “international” business man complimented me on my forehead. (Seriously.) And then he said he’d buy my drinks all night, no strings attached. I wouldn’t even have to talk to him again. And it was true – he didn’t bother me all night, except to smile occasionally in my direction. And I ordered the drinks (two total) at the bar, so there was no tampering going on or anything like that.

It was very strange…but nice.

I’m with you, Amanda. Hell, if he wants to buy you drinks knowing there’s no hope, then his loss is your gain. Go for the top-shelf stuff, homie. =)

Keianna, you and I, we need to talk.

I’m all simple thrills, when it comes down to it. I’m a cheap beer, dive bar, tell me about your life kind of girl, but I DO appreciate the finer things.

I’d love to go top shelf every time, but can’t do it without feeling like a dick.

How’d you get past that?

A forehead fetish guy!!! How WEIRDLY interesting.

Lesalina, agreed. Though I have yet to come across this in my line of work. Jesse Jane has kind of a high hairline? I dunno. Interesting indeed.

Amanda

1. Okay, that might make me feel dirty? My hope is that feeling goes away with experience. Being single and out there—kind of scary and new.

2. I had a friend in high school that somehow was declared to have a sexy forehead. No doubt some trademark sarcasm gone horribly wrong.

3. In a rare moment of unsupervised solitary drunkenness (don’t judge! we’ve all had that kind of bad day) i discovered my GAY bar mate had a foot fetish and proceeded to make a case for why MY FEMALE feet are attractive. I legitimately wanted to know if he liked feet more than he liked men. Oh, hey there Anthropology degree! Gettin used much lately? (now, you may commence to judging.)

For someone named slutmuffin, you seem to be a little TOO nice.

Ben/Amanda are right: Once you’ve made it clear you want nothing romantical with him, it’s on him to decide whether he wants to stop buying the drinks.

Ain’t no shame in flirting.

Someone say “booze”?

I agree with everyone above, but if it bothers you, why not ask him, “why do you keep buying me drinks when I’m obviously not interested…..oh-and I’ll have take a neat tequila, please.”

You’re on. Next time it comes up, I will do exactly this and report back. I just so happen to like tequila!

But would you really respond favorably to the object of your drink buying asking that question of you? Clearly, you wouldn’t mind as it is your suggestion. But seriously, is that kind of candor preferred? I guess this is normal. All new to me. Evangelize away, booze man.

Perhaps he does understand that you aren’t interested but continues to buy the drinks because he enjoys the exchange with you. And perhaps there are strings and they’re just that you flirt a little.

Times are tough muffin, save your pennies and take the drinks.

Sage advice.